You read the story everyday, the one about the person who takes the big leap to follow their dreams and ends up with the exact life they’ve always wanted. But what happens in between the leap and the landing? Well, a story isn’t a story without some struggle, and that’s okay, because adversity is what builds character.After you jump and move to the place of your dreams, you find yourself getting slapped in the face by reality, paying rent, scrounging up coins for bills, spending on personal expenses, all while witnessing your savings account go from 100 to 0— real quick. So, what do you do then? How can you pursue your dreams while accumulating and saving money at the same time? It almost always comes down to one thing, just one thing. And in this situation, there’s only one thing you can do: hustle. [Tweet “Hustle to me is finding a way to handle your responsibilities, responsibly. “] Hustle to me is finding a way to handle your responsibilities, responsibly. I am a freelance marketer who helps clients maintain brand consistency on marketing collateral as well as digital / online presence, including social media. But the ugly truth about freelancing is that the income isn’t consistent. You have to actively seek work just to break even, and I’ll be the first to admit the stress that builds when relying on only one source of income. When stress comes knocking at your door, it’s harder to open your mind for the creative juices to enter. Even worse: it drains your positive energy. 1. At least two sources of income Keeping your energy in a positive state of flow is essential to your well being, even more so when you are on a new journey. When you stress builds in your mind, it blocks your blessings from flowing. As a first step, I had to get real, and find ways to increase my monthly income. In addition to freelancing, I wanted to have at least two other sources. A friend recommended catering as an easy start, so I applied and got the job. I also joined a recruiting company as a passive way to find out about additional part-time opportunities. You could also make extra cash by using the skills that you already have, and figuring out if you can turn them into a service. 2. Lifestyle Audit: Needs vs. Wants Okay, you have the income flowing, what’s next? A lifestyle audit. I don’t know if it’s just me, but the first of the month seems to roll around pretty quickly when you’re paying rent. It’s time to discover the areas in your life that aren’t essential. You have to do a lifestyle audit, and determine your needs vs. your wants. For me, the latter was the weekly nail salon appointments, the biweekly stops at the hair salon, the every-other-day- drop-ins at H&M and Urban Outfitters, the drinks after work—you catch my drift. These activities are not necessities, they’re luxuries. Once you have the extra income flowing in again, you can choose to treat yourself to the wants. But when you’re in save-mode, sacrifice is inevitable and, honey, being broke isn’t sweet.
Speaking of not going broke have you heard about The Young Yet Wise Society? This is a private paid membership that helps urban millennails properly manage their money. Go from help my pockets are hella broke, I have no idea where all my money should go to my money plan is Litt, i’m paying off debt, my savings account is flourishing oh did I mention my skin is glowing and my edges are growing back. (Well I can’t help with the skin and edges but once you get your money right everything else seems to fall in line.) Learn more here.3. Save & Budget Another money saver is when it comes to grocery shopping and eating out. I try to limit the amount of money I spend on both. When shopping, I buy food items that I can stretch across the week and across meals; think must-have items that your lifestyle can’t go without. I also go to the Farmer’s Market for fresh items that are typically sold at a cheaper price. My weekly grocery budget is $30, and as an example, some of my must-have items include:
- almond milk
- frozen fruit
- kale or spinach (farmers market usually has a good deal on kale bundles)
- onions & peppers
- choice of meat (I stick to two max)
How do you figure out what path you’re supposed to be on Have you ever felt kind of lost? Like you’re not quite sure what you were put on this earth to do? Maybe you launched your idea and it didn’t go as planned and now you feel stuck. Or maybe you started a new journey and you’ve found yourself not as happy as you thought you would be. You’re wondering what to do now. Well, if you’ve been struggling with figuring out what path you’re supposed to be on this great book The Art Of Work:A Proven Path to Discovering What You Were Meant to Do, by Jeff Goins will help you figure it out. I started reading The Art of Work last week (I was fortunate enough to get a signed copy from Jeff Goins himself at Fincon), and it’s been really hard to put it down. I find myself going back re-reading chapters. My biggest take away so far is that we need to pay attention to the lessons that life is teaching us. We need to not only pay attention to the good moments, but we also need to pay attention to those moments where we stumbled, and fell. Everything that you’re going through, albeit good or bad is leading you to the exact path that you’re supposed to be on. I remember last year coming to a cross road where I had to decide if I wanted to stick with my skin care business or if I solely wanted to focus on Young Yet Wise. It was a tough decision to make, but after reading this book it’s made me realize that it’s ok to pivot in a different direction. “God wastes nothing.” There are valuable lessons to everything that happens in your life. I talk more about this in the video. Yes I changed my shirt color in Photoshop for the header image of this post because it visually looked better yellow. #designerproblems. Anyway, If you’re interested in buying a copy of this book you can buy it here for only $9.34, I guarantee that it will give you some clarity it certainly has for me. ]]>
It is only the strong that execute I was looking over my notes and read a quote that said “It is only the strong that execute.” There was something powerful about this line. I love it because it speaks so much truth. Any person can plan to do great things, but it takes strength to execute. It takes strength to go from being inspired to actually taking action. It takes strength to have a vision for your life. To create a plan and build weekly steps that will get you to where you want to be. Even when your currently reality doesn’t match your vision. You have to focus. You have to walk in your vision and purpose even when what you see in front of you isn’t there yet, even when your own thoughts start to doubt you. Every decision matters. Every decision you make each and every day is either bringing you closer to where you want to be, keeping you the same, or driving you further away from your goal. Think about that for a second. As we enter into the fall season maybe you realized that you haven’t been executing as well as you should. As the leaves start to fall you will most likely find yourself reflecting more on your life and how far you’ve come. Or how far you still have to go, but either way I want to tell you that you’ll be all right. It’s easy to reach a certain age and feel as though you should already have certain things accomplished. I believe that everything you’ve done up to now is leading you to exactly where you need to be. If you aren’t where you want to be that just means there’s some things you still need to go through or learn in order to get there. I think back to when I first started this blog. I had no mission statement, no email subscribers, no writing degree, plan or systems set into place. I just started writing. It probably wasn’t even good. Each blog post has helped me get better and I will continue to get better as long as I don’t give up. You too will get better as long as you don’t give up. Sometimes the only way to get better is to suck. Being a perfectionist is a cop out that you keep telling yourself because you’re afraid to be great. There’s an inner battle going on inside of you. There’s some part of you that doesn’t trust another part of you that believes that you have what it takes. Truth is every post that I write isn’t a hit. Every video I post doesn’t get the views that I want or expect. Every person I email and want to collaborate doesn’t respond. Every blog post and every video has brought me here to this point. If I never posted anything because I didn’t believe it wasn’t good enough, I wouldn’t be where I am. I wouldn’t be able to get any feedback on my work. I would only have drafts of unfinished posts that the world would never get to see. [Tweet “Being a perfectionist is a cop out that you keep telling yourself because youre afraid to be great”] Sometimes the only way to get better is to suck. When you’re at the bottom you can only get better. Trust me every person that’s at the top right now at one point their work sucked too. Sometimes the only way to change is to be fed up with where you currently are. You don’t have to have all the answers from day one. You can start and learn as you go. You can jump and build your wings on the way down. Your wings work. [Tweet “Sometimes the only way to get better is to suck.”] Do not be afraid of criticism. People are afraid of criticism and at times they mistakes criticism as hating. Someone had posted a photo of their new logo and there was way too much going on. I commented that she she try to keep is simple because less it more. What she had was great, but just to remove a few of the elements. It wasn’t me hating it was me giving constructive feedback. I’ve been designing since 05 trust me I know what I’m talking about. What I loved about going to an art school is that criticism was apart of your growth strategy. After every project we would have to hang it on the wall or have it publicly displayed on the computer for the rest of the class to review and critique. Some days I would be so nervous. Will they like my work? Will it suck? Every critique I received only helped my work to be even better than before. If people only told me how great my work was all the time there would be no room for improvement. The only way to get to where you want to be is to keep producing. To keep working and building on your craft. Complaining won’t you get you there. Saying I wish I was as good as so and so won’t get you there either. [Tweet “Let criticism be apart of your growth strategy. “] Trust yourself. I know it’s so easy to get caught up in all the advice, the self development articles, books, blog posts, Instagram memes, and Facebook statuses, but I need you to know that inside of you there is a great teacher. You have so much knowledge inside of you, you just have to trust it. Trust that everything you’ve already learned up to this point in your life is going to serve you and bring you closer to your purpose. Your journey is your journey and it won’t look like anyone else’s. I’m not saying to stop learning, because I feel as though we are never done learning. I just don’t want you to over look your greatness. I want you to stop looking around at what everyone else has and what everyone else is doing and take inventory of your own amazing stock. Be Proud of your progress. On this Tuesday I want you to reflect on how far you’ve come. I want you to close your eyes take a deep breath and know that everything will be all right. I want you to trust yourself. This is your life and if at any point you don’t feel as though it’s the story you want to live, you can change it. You don’t need permission to change your story, your plans, or your goals and remember that your wings work, they were crafted and build specifically for you. I’m excited for what the rest of the year has in store for each and every one of us. Keep working hard. Even when it sucks because that is the only way you will get better. With all my love, Candice Marie ]]>
Absolutely nothing. The answer will always be no if you don’t try. Now I’m like bring it on fear, the bigger the fear the greater chance I have at a better opportunity. Fear is real. Fear is there to keep you stuck. Fear doesn’t want you to win. Fear wants time to pass you by, and have you in the same place next year. And who has time to be in the exact same place next year? Not us! You won’t be in the same place next year if you start to take action and do the exact things you’re afraid of doing. Use fear to guide you to your next great opportunity. There are no mistakes, just lessons, or opportunities. GET YA OPPORTUNITIES!!! Sure, you never know what will come out of you taking that next step and kicking fear in the face, but if you never take any steps you will always stay exactly where you are.
I will leave you with this quote: “If you always make the right decision, the safe decision, the one most people make, you will be the same as everyone else.” ― Paul ArdenP.S. Lot’s of people have asked me what’s another great book to read after reading mine of course (I brought my e-book back, so if you want to learn how to invest you can but my book here), I would highly recommend The Bogglehead’s guide to investing by: Taylor Larimore I just started reading it and it is great so far. You can purchase the book here along with all the other great books I recommend. Have a great day everyone, With all my love, Candice Marie]]>